When we spend our lives merely surviving, life can start to seem a little empty and pointless.
Nevertheless, this is exactly how many of us live: we work for eight hours or more a day and then we come home feeling too tired and exhausted to do much of anything with our time.
So, we sit and watch TV.
The same thing repeats and repeats and the most excitement we have is a holiday once a year to look forward to.
Is that really living?
Here are four simple changes that can make your life more meaningful:
Constantly learning is a great way to give life more meaning and direction.
Ultimately, one of the things that the brain craves most is growth.
If it isn’t challenged to learn and grow, then it will shrink and we will become set in our ways.
Make it your job to constantly be learning new skills and pursuits.
That can be related to your career, a hobby, or even a new language!
Likewise, relationships are one of the things that we really need to be happy.
If you don’t have meaningful relationships, then you’ll have no one to share your experiences, your challenges and your triumphs with.
A truly ‘meaningful’ relationship goes beyond friends of friends that you only ever meet in a group.
This is someone that you can have a deep heart-to-heart with and who has a long and storied history with you.
What’s also necessary for life to feel meaningful is challenge and to some extent, risk.
Have you ever been in a situation that was truly life and death? Or perhaps that put you in a situation where you were close to accomplishing something truly amazing?
These are the moments that the brain focusses and engages with the world.
These are the moments when we learn and when we realize the worth of what we have.
It puts things in perspective and creates stories.
Don’t shy away from the things that test you!
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Finally, everyone should seek to have some travel in their lives.
This doesn’t mean you have to backpack across the dessert – but simply being able to experience new sights and new people is important to keep your mind open and your experiences varied.
If you don’t have the budget to go away, then come up with an adventure you can enjoy a little closer to home.
How Increased Confidence Can Help You Get What You Want
This might sound like the cheesy-kind of advice your parents might have given you, but it really is true that confidence can get you pretty much whatever you want.
That and being yourself.
If you want to get a date, succeed in your career or otherwise take any aspect of your life to the next level, then boosting your confidence is one of the best ways to accomplish that.
What Confidence Really Means
If you have ever met an alpha male, or a woman who just seems to have everything under control, then you might have noticed that they are usually very confident.
The truth is that the whole reason they appear so successful is that confidence.
That’s because confidence sends a powerful signal – it says ‘I consider myself to be a catch’.
Speaking in evolutionary terms, confidence suggests that you are a good potential mate, or a superior competitor.
Even if someone is short, poorly dressed and unappealing – if they are supremely confidence then it will seem as though they know something you don’t.
The assumption is that they must have a reason to be that confident.
And thus we instantly assume that this person is somehow our superior: that we should try to impress them, or try to be more like them.
That’s why we gravitate toward confident people, want to date them and want to be liked by them.
A lot of people don’t realize the importance of confidence and they think it is enough to be nice.
They assume that by acting nice, they will get people to like them and they can that way overcome their looks, their stature, or their status.
But if you don’t have any self-confidence and you act very nice, then this can actually backfire: it starts to seem as though you want something and that you are being a creep in order to get it.
Conversely, if you act a little less needy, if you can show yourself to be highly capable and impressive and then you chat to someone in a friendly and open manner… then people will be won over by your charm and your appeal.
This niceness seems much more genuine because you appear like you don’t need help from everyone.
So guys: stop trying to win the girl by being nice.
Employees, stop trying to get the job by being self-deprecating.
Act like you know your worth and then layer niceness on top of that. That is the winning combination!